1. Don’t worry about your self-image. 不要顾虑自我形象
We all have an image of ourselves, how we think we appear to others. It’s usually wrong because we just don’t know what other people think about us, and so it’s not worth worrying about.
人人心中都有自我形象,也就是我们认为自己在别人眼中的样子。不过这个形象往往是错的,因为我们其实并不知道别人到底怎么看自己,所以很容易杞人忧天。
2. Give up trying to find yourself. 放弃自我寻找
A lot of people say, ‘I need time to find myself, to work out who I am.’ This is one way to give yourself a neurosis because there’s nothing to find. You have your capabilities; you may be a cook or a chemist or a charity worker and nothing can take that away.
很多人说,我需要时间寻找自我,来认清自己到底是谁。其实这只会让你变得神经兮兮,因为并没有什么好找的。你有你的技能,你是个厨师、化学家或者慈善工作者,没有什么能改变这个事实。
3. Celebrate your uniqueness. 悦纳自己的与众不同
Every human being is different, unique. Nobody has quite the same take on things as you do. This is a marvellous feeling to enjoy. At the same time we have to understand that others have a different take too. It means we’re not necessarily right, and it makes us more tolerant.
每个人都与众不同。你和任何人都不一样,这是一种很好的感觉。同时,要知道别人和自己也不一样。这就是说,你不一定总是对的,这让我们变得更宽容。
4. Live now! 活在当下
Don’t put it off until tomorrow. We don’t know what tomorrow will be like. The past is a memory – so there’s no point in living there. The future is a hope and a dream which is pleasant to contemplate now is all we have.
不要把事情拖到明天。谁都不知道明天是什么样子。过去已经成为回忆,没必要活在回忆中。未来还是一个值得憧憬的美梦。现在才是我们真正拥有的。
5. Be aware of this moment in your life. 关注每分每秒
What’s happening? What are you doing? Are you enjoying? It doesn’t have to be a big moment like a graduation ceremony or winning a lottery prize. Life is mostly small moments like washing the dishes or riding the subway, or having coffee with a friend. Life is too precious to be wasted drifting along half-awake.
正在发生什么?你在做什么?你在享受人生吗?不一定要等到毕业典礼或者中彩票这样的重大时刻才去享受。洗盘子、乘地铁、和朋友喝咖啡,是这些平凡而短暂的时刻组成了我们的生活。人生苦短,可不能半睡半醒的浪费了。